Dreams to Work

Have you ever had a portrait drawn by an artist? Artists look carefully at the person in front of them. Taking pen and paper, they replicate the face in front of them from their point of view. Hand over a few dollars and you get someone else’s perspective of You.

Coaching is not about drawing, but you are asking a lot of questions. It’s not consulting where you give your opinion of how a person “should” move on their project. It’s about asking deep questions, and giving the other person the “insight” and watching them “create” their dream. Or maybe it is about self-discover in what is valuable to them. Coaching brings out the person from a deep seed we all contain.

Cat Wilson of Apositiva is offering a Coach Training program open to everyone. You may attend if you want to be coached or if you want to become a coach. Either way, you will get wider perspective and come up with dreams to work on.

For more information click here for Growing Coach Training.  The coach training workshop starts August 29th, 2018, so SIGN UP NOW.

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Terrible Ideas… Don’t You Love Those?

Rick’s Idea Photo Credit: Cat Wilson

I believe in tales of passage, people who tried an idea, a journey, or fell into an opportunity, even if a terrible idea that they loved, and made something wonderful.

Try a turnip!

“You can’t squeeze blood from a turnip” you argue. Ah, true. According to The New Dictionary, that means, “You can only get from people what they are willing or able to give.” (The New Dictionary of Cultural Literacy, Third Edition. 2002). But what about your goals and dreams? Are you willing to try? Are you able to give?

Have you ever tried a big goal, a challenge, and maybe acquired a taste for something that is actually not bad for you. What could you loose? What could you win?

In the movie “Under the Tuscan Sun” the picture opens with an author presenting his book at a bookstore. Francis, his teacher (played by Diane Lane) stands by proudly.

The author talks about being in a writing class and having writer’s block. All he has are terrible ideas.

He says that just as he was about to drop the class, his instructor Francis says, “Terrible ideas are like playground scape goats. Given the right encouragement, they grow up to be geniuses. Take one of your terrible ideas and work on it.” He says, “I did it!”

Later in the movie Francis takes the gift of friends – a tour of Tuscany, Italy – to begin writing on one of her own books and to recover from a divorce.

On a stop along the tour, she notices a passionate woman in a big hat, holding a duckling against her cheek as it nibbles her face, totally enjoying the experience. Her aliveness intrigues Francis and she follows the woman, but looses her in a crowd. Along the way Francis is drawn to a “For Sale” listing of estates, noticing the listing for a villa – Bramasole.

A passionate woman (Katherine) walks up behind her, and says, “It’s a nice little villa. Rather rundown, but redeemable. Are you going to buy it?”

Francis laughs and says that would be a terrible idea.

“Oh,” Katherine says, “terrible idea – hmmm. Don’t you just love those?!”

Further along the way, the bus is held back by some sheep, and they are stuck at this unscheduled stop directly in front of Bramasole, the villa for sale. She gets off the bus.

Francis looks at the villa, tours inside as she considers buying it, and a pigeon flies overhead and drops poop on her head. (yuck) Yet, this is the sign the seller needed to know who to sell the villa, which had been in her family for many years.

Sometimes in life we may find that something happens like a sign. The sign helps us make the decision. “This happened, so I CAN do it!”

Francis buys the villa, turning her terrible idea into a beautiful home!

Ideas give us a journey.

When we “introduce ourselves” to an idea, we get to know our idea along the way.

When Francis tells her friends about her goal to repair the villa, they are surprised that she is willing to take on such a project. She doesn’t know anything about repairing a home.

Support does not always come readily from friends and family. Francis faces the journey alone, and gains the joy of a beautiful villa transformed by her dreams and imagination and respect from people after she finishes the project.

This blog is meant to encourage you to take a “terrible idea” that intrigues you and do something with it. Who knows what could happen for you?

One good idea can lead to the next.

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Whether it’s writing a book, holding a focus group, or holding a workshop or mindmap party, I’m here for you in Coaching, Consulting, or Training.

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Works of Art

We are all a work of art, and what we do makes us so even more. When I’m coaching my clients I encourage them to find what they love and do that one thing! This is how you create a more expansive you.

Art and drawing is a vital part of my life. Over the past couple years, I have been doing lots of sketching, practicing everywhere. You’ll find me here and there with my ‘Cat Bag’ filled with paper, pens, water color brushes, pens, brushes and plastic to protect water color pictures.

Current Shows

Solace & Find Espresso

4655 SW Griffith Drive, #160
Beaverton, OR 7005
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It is such a joy when someone as lovely as Misa from Solace asks you if you want to bring your art in. She treats your pieces with such care and her talented curator Moose hangs the pictures to bring you joy. It is such a delight to show my collection here!

For those of you who fall in love with one of the Cafe Characters, a range of characters is ready to find a happy home. Prices are available with Misa, and all you need to do is ask.

Presentation

  • Currently up at Solace through 2017-18
  • Watch for artist storytelling days

YES!!! Art is for sale, so contact me if you are interested in one or two prints.

 

Solace & Fine Espresso

4655 SW Griffith Dr. #160,
Beaverton, OR 97005

 

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Who Lives on Your Shelf?

Books are my friends, and friends are everywhere! The words in these books have entertained my mind, my soul, and heart, enriching who I have become.  As a coach, trainer, and creativityologist my friends – these books bring their authors and hang out with me in my library of ideas.

Growing Up with My Friends

In my youth, my best friend was my cousin Nanette. We lived in books when we were growing up, and even took to the trees with a comic book or two for summer entertainment. I suppose it would be funny to see us up in those trees in the old Prairie now, but we loved being in nature and enjoying an adventure with Huckleberry Finn, Archie, Spiderman and Little Dot!

Today, Nanette is a brilliant woman. Articulate among teachers, farm community, politicians, and a whole world of people interested in holding intelligent conversations. Books on  her shelf have contributed to her being an educated woman, writer, mother, person of culture in the arts, activist, teacher, librarian, and beloved family member. I’d like to think that she has joined with our friends on the shelf. Together they have grown.

My partner Rich Aanrich has written a novel Twisted Destiny, and so this author lives on my shelf. It’s an action-packed adventure, filled with interesting connections and fascinating characters. You should check it out on Amazon for $ .99.
(Free to Kindle Unlimited users.)

Books are on my tables, on shelves, stacked on my desk, in my iPad, and conveniently waiting in the back seat of the car … just in case I find myself at the community coffee cafe with a few moments to wander with my friend, the book.

Who lives on Your Shelf?

Curious as a cat, I wonder … which books have inspired you? What authors do you hang out with at home and for tea or coffee? Who would you recommend I invite to hang out with my shelf of friends?  Send me a note or drop in on new my Facebook page Synergyone Training.

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In the World of Coaching, Questions Rule

 

In the world of coaching, questions rule. Clients can expect to hold court with a curious guide. But, do you know what questions do? What value do questions bring?

Questions are meant to bring information to the floor.

Clarify – Specifically what do you want?

Deepen – When you get what you want, why is that important?

Test – When you get what you want, because … how will it be in the future?

Ah Ha – When you look back on that time, what did you learn?

Rudyard Kipling said, “I had six honest serving men. They taught me all I knew. Their names were: Where, What, When, Why, How and Who.” As you can see in the mindmap, they lead the way.

Coaching is a process where the client is honored with having the answers. This means that the coach doesn’t give answers, because coaching is not consulting nor therapy.  Inside the client has all the answers. The coach takes their client inside where it is safe to explore.

By asking questions, coaches help clients get to know themselves, open up possibilities, revisit dreams, introduce themselves, and take creative control of their own lives. If your coach is “telling” you what to do, then you are working with a consultant. In the world of coaching, questions rule, because they guide the client to his or her highest and best possible life!

When you want to become more, live better, or reach higher into possibilities, please consider me as your resource. I’m here for you.

“Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” – Rudyard Kipling

 

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Be Playful and Draw on the Wall

Although I’m not sure if my mother would have approved, I would have loved to draw happy faces all over the wall.

Today, I train how to draw mindmaps and do graphic facilitation on the walls at Apositiva in Portland. Corporations call me in to work with teams in these visual processes, such as Intel Corp, The Standard, Tri-Met, and others.  It certainly makes the meeting or training more interesting!

In coaching, my clients come for a session and we work out what they want on the wall. I’d like to show you some of them, but they are generally personal or corporate secrets, and so it stays on their walls.

If you’d like to see how it can work for you in coaching you on a challenge or to work with an idea you can contact me to meet me here in Portland, or I can meet you online in Google, Fuze (where it’s recorded), and other online forums. Let me know how I can assist you to be playful and draw on the wall!

 

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Belly Wisdom

How do you feel when you are giving a presentation? Maybe you are an online trainer and only give in person presentations rarely, so you are not as concerned. However, trainers need to care for their body not only for appearance, but also for energy and brain power. It’s belly wisdom.

Weight carried around the belly is like a spare tire that weighs your physical and mental person down. Let’s go into the belly for some wisdom.

What you put into your body becomes you tomorrow. This means that we want to be wise about the foods and nonfoods we put into the belly.

You probably know that natural veggies, fruits and proteins are the best fuel, so use your mind and set that program in place. You can find lots of great recipes online, and some of the wisest recipes are Paleo and Gluten-free.

Oh, no, you say, I can’t cook with that stuff!  Wait! Before you stress over not being able to do this, let me tell you that there are lots of recipes for these recipes and it is a popular topic on line, too.

A few years ago, I led a weekend workshop called Resplendent Lives for Women in Oregon. We had a lovely week-end and lots of great food. Pancakes, breads, pasta, cookies, cakes, and everything you might imagine to put on a couple pounds over a couple days. I felt heavier and my brain felt fogged.

When I returned home I read an article on the book “Wheat Belly” by Dr. William Davis, which talked about how wheat affected your physical body with heart issues, but also made your brain fuzzy. This was enough for me to try it for a couple weeks. We can do anything for a couple weeks.

After three weeks, I dropped 12 pounds (and I wasn’t overweight) and could think much more clearly!  When I tried having a normal piece of wheat bread I discovered that it made me very unfocussed for about two hours!  I did not have Celiac Disease, but I am wheat sensitive.

You can do more research if you wish and find many benefits to changing your diet. It’s belly wisdom!

How To Begin Body Focus

Many people are not happy about the size of various parts of their body, but they don’t know how to proceed to handle the problem. One popular place of complaint is the “belly.” Guys want a “6-pack”? If so, let’s take a tip from some actors. So, let’s simply get focused.

  • Calendar – choose event or time when you want to be in shape (i.e. Summer/June 1, 2018)
  • Regimen – Type of exercise (i.e. biking, carb control, yoga, etc.) and best time to do activity.
  • Sacrifice – What will you give up? (i.e. Buffets, pasta, wheat). Go ahead, make it something you know you will simply take off your list.
  • Results – Decide what end result you want (6-pack, looser clothes, etc.)
  • Visualize – Relax and dream about when you are in the size and shape of health.

Visions of Health

When you get a sense of what you want and see it in your “conscious” mind, then close your eyes and envision a new you. Work backward in time in your mind and envision the journey of new behaviors, such as walks, drinking lots of water, enjoying a gluten-free meal, and laughing. Yes, it needs to feel happy and joyful! All this wonderful stuff moves into your “unconscious” mind with regular practice AND practice makes perfect!

Lesson:  You are so much more than you know. Beginning is easy when you have the image and visions running inside your mind. Continuing each and every day you can put this belly wisdom inside and see the results outside. Enjoy your body, mind, and life.

Want Training to Grow?

Contact Cat Wilson for Life Balance Coaching at 503-816-5104.

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Meltdown: What Do Coaches Do on Off Days?

Meltdown: What Do Coaches Do on Off Days?

Having a bad day? Wondering who to talk to?  Link up with a compassionate colleague who listens when you need to be heard.

Many clients find that listening is exactly the “fix” they are seeking, as they need to be heard. But what happens when you are the coach who does the listening and you need someone to listen to you? After all, everyone has a down day when they need a pat on the back or an open ear.

Tips: Chin Ups for the Coach

Here are five (5) simple tips for Coaches and Guides having a “Melt-down”:

1)  Find a coach who can be a good listener to you, choosing a person that you are not coaching. It changes the dynamic when  you reverse roles. Seek someone who specializes in a different area than you, so you can recommend each other.

2) Plan ahead. What stops you? What keeps you going? Take the time on a good day to write an “In Emergency Break Glass” plan. Do movies help you on a bad day? A walk in nature? How about chicken soup (for the soul). Make an emergency plan and reach for it when you need it. Fill a box of goodies like a box of special tea, new book, movie tickets, or even a couple $20 bills for play money.

3) Get away. Go for a long drive and stop in some unusual place. I like to go off on a venture a couple times a year just to get new perspective. This is what vacations are for, and it’s common for a busy person to forget or disregard the need to get away.

4) Hold this thought:  “It’s all good.”  “It’s all good.” Something good comes out of everything, whether it is a lesson or a new idea.

5) Smile. Stick a pencil or pen across your mouth to push your lips back. Hey! It works. It’s been scientifically proven that just by sitting up straight and smiling and looking up that your disposition can  improve. Remember a FUN STATE and visit that moment.

MORE IDEAS

  • Talk to your pet
  • Hot cup of tea
  • Dance a silly jig
  • Listen to music
  • Smell vanilla or peppermint
  • Rub nice lotion on your hands
  • Visit a sweet memory
  • Write a “thank you” to someone

By the way, “Thank you for visiting Synergyone Training.” (smile)

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Why Do We Do What We Do?

Why Do We Do What We Do?

Do you think that you have the power of always doing the right thing all the time? Yet, when you  have a cold or feel exhausted from a day of wrestling with a computer program, or get hit with one of those “challenges” that life hands out so generously, do you slip and loose your cool or make mistakes?

It’s bound to happen to anyone sometime. But if we knew when we regularly slipped or were triggered, we could respond better.  If we know we could be better, then how can we do better?

May I go back in time and tell you a story?  In 2001, I met my Life Partner. At the time, I worked for Corporations developing training programs for leaders, professionals, and technical staff and he worked in his own little venue, helping people learn more on the psychology platform. It was easy for us to connect because we both loved helping others motivate themselves and shift to a higher level of being. He gave classes using a tool that I had used over the years, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP). I knew this communication and empowering tool was useful, but I really gained an appreciation in seeing this man who practiced it on a regular basis.

Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is the art and science of Human Excellence. It’s used by professionals in business, medicine, and in life to experience a better life. One popular use is “rapport” when  you are meeting people in their “model of the world.” Communicating successfully makes it possible to achieve what you want and need, and meet the expectations of your family and clients. NLP is a fast form of cognitive behavior therapy based on a set of presuppositions. helps you see and understand where another is coming from and how to respond so you are both on the same page. It helps you get things done. NLP also helps us moderate old ideas that hung around with misunderstandings from another time.  Time-line Therapy developed by Tadd James in 1995 helps the unconscious realize, change and reset to living with a happier mindset. Using step-by-step techniques it helps you bring changes unconsciously so you can reframe your experiences and stop being reactive to present situations based on the past. You go beyond the old set point. You establish a new one.

I joined my Life Partner in his venue, and stepped in tune with practicing NLP by training others. It’s one thing to learn something, like reading a book. But it’s another thing to put it into action on a regular basis, and I can tell you that this is what made the difference for me. We are generative beings, always changing. So it’s a tool you can use for yourself for self development and improvement.

Have you heard about the man who got lost on his way to the concert, and saw a maintenance worker sweeping, sweeping, sweeping. “Excuse me, Sir. Can you tell me how to get to Carnegie Hall?”  Without breaking a beat in his activity, the worker said, “Practice, practice, practice!”

You can learn a tool like NLP, and it takes regular use and practice. The more you find “triggers” that set you off and “manage” them, the better and easier you will “unconsciously respond” when you need. Take the time to practice, practice, practice.

If you want some coaching using NLP, Call Cat for an appointment at 503-816-5104.

 

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Mixing with Co-Trainers

Mixing with Co-Trainers

Years ago I developed training programs for Intel.  It was my first opportunity to work with a Mentor who also had an educational focus in professional training, and my beginning with mixing and working with co-traininers.

Jeanie Wentworth and I met and discussed how to bring training to a higher level and one way we wanted to present material was with engineers, managers, technicians and leaders working together to give both sides of the process and experience.

Since our programs were being developed for “co-trainers” to present, she encouraged me to find some books that talked about how people worked together when they trained together, so we could add tips. Her suggestion led me on a search that elicited not a single resource back in 2001.

There were books about training, games in training, and many various topics, but nothing covered tips and tricks to help people to present together. Jeanie suggested that I put together a publication on what I had learned in my own experience and give our trainers the benefit of my tips and then she added her years of experience.  It really made a difference. Unless you work at Intel you can’t access that document, but I can certainly share a small crop of ideas to grow your experience.

Cat Wilson’s Co-Trainer Tips

  1. Meet ahead of time and agree on the objectives of the course.
  2. Be clear in who presents each learning process and what will be covered.
  3. Time your training, and use a timing device that both people agree to stick to. When it goes off, the sound is sufficient. Setting it for a 5-minute question period is good for class.
  4. Make time for stories. Present a situation where the training was useful and turn to your co-trainer and ask for their story.  Be sure that you are both in agreement and prepared to share stories, and then watch the time. People who are passionate and learned something bring authenticity to the room and everyone loves a story! It makes learning memorable.
  5. Have a Plan, but be Flexible.  You may need to cover a certain among of material over time, but be flexible in case something happens and you need to shorten or lengthen your day.
  6. Creativity and Fun are important avenues to your participants. Be playful with your Co-Instructor and friendly together in the classroom, and jump in when asked to bring something useful or interesting. Smile and look at the other presenter when you are being filmed; watch the news and you’ll see how newscasters do it.
  7. Leave relationship stuff outside. If you and your co-trainer are in a relationship together, as many authors and trainers are, save your affection for after class. Smiles, a touch on the arm is okay, but keep the rest out of view of your students for the sake of professionalism. In the same reference, if you are in disagreement with your “other” leave it outside and “put on a professional” frame. There’s no room for relationship issues in a training where people are coming for a positive experience. (Take 10 deep breaths.)
  8. Do what you do best. If you have a sense of humor, use it tactfully. If you are creative, add that to the training to spice it up. My partner has an amazing use of humor. I clip funny stuff and write my experiences down with useful lessons that can make people laugh.
  9. Park questions. Material beyond the course will come up in questions. If someone asks a complicated question and it’s going to take time away from the audience, “park” the question and offer to talk with the person later. Parking a question means writing it down on a small section of the chart or on your e-tablet or i-pad and then covering it before the end of the day with a response of some kind.
  10. Answer what you know, but if you don’t know, be honest. Tell the participant who asks a question that you will check your sources and get back to them or give them a place where they can research on their own. Be fair to yourself. If you know you won’t have time, try to give them resources and let them continue on topic.

Remember the Class?

Your best workshops and training classes will be the ones where people felt you were available and happy to be there.

They will remember how instructors made them feel, so do include warm up exercises to create a safe space to learn and share in your room. Check your ego at the door and feel balanced with your co-instructor, even if one of you has a bigger title or more letters after your name.  The learning environment is best when you are totally present and not hung up over unnecessary games or worries in who is what.  Just do the best and work with your Co-Trainer with the intention to make it the BEST experience for your group.

Want more tips?

Contact me and we’ll “co” a mindmap!

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